As the song says, breaking up is hard to do. What I have recently learned however, is that no matter what age you are, or how long you have been in a relationship, when it is over, you start acting like a 16 year old kid.
The first example of this is my last breakup. I was with the guy for 8 months and have mentioned him here before. I thought at the time, and still sometimes now, that I was totally in love with him and it has been hard for me sometimes, even now--4 months later to get him completely out of my mind. I have tried dating some other fellows, but so far, it hasn't been the same--or close to the same. So, I figured my lack of experience with these things is what is causing me to have such strong feelings, even after 4 months. I imagined that with age, breaking up would still be hard, but I would have the wisdom to be an adult about it.
Boy, was I wrong. There is a woman I know who is going through a bad breakup. She is in her mid 50's and was in the relationship almost as long as I have been alive. Which is a long time. Anyway...at this point, anyone on the outside can see that the relationship is really not healthy, at least not in the state it is currently in. And, yet, she still keeps doing really wacky things, like semi-stalking him and calling him when she knows she shouldn't. Of course, all of these things make her feel worse but she just can't seem to let it go. She even made me go online and try to find his profile on Yahoo!Personals. I mean, do you really want to know these things? It just makes you feel bad and now I am part of the stalking. Even I haven't broken down to call my ex--even though I seriously consider it, every once in a while.
Posted by Morgan
at 11:38 AM EDT